I think I have this thought daily. “I would look and feel so much better if I could just lose 10lbs….”
As much as I try my best to be a balanced person and to help inspire others to be more balanced in life (in terms of health and fitness) I still struggle daily with mindless chatter.
I rarely act on the thought to lose 10lbs though. I think the main reason is that I am just not willing to do the work. However, I still have this annoying voice each day saying that “life would be that much better” if I could just lose those “pesky” 10lbs.
I think this happens to me for a number of reasons:
1. I was lighter in high school
I was about 10lbs lighter in high school until I reached the age of 20. When I put on 10lbs my sophomore year, I never really was able to get them all off (and never really tried besides a couple of crash diets that allowed me to shed the weight for about 2 days before I ate my entire sorority house!)
I was always very thin in high school so when I gained 10lbs I began to feel as though I just kind of blended in with the crowd, if that makes sense. I was just plain average.
I know that transitioning from high school to college is challenging as you are changing physically, emotionally, and intellectually and I have accepted that my body changed as well as my dietary habits.
I logically know that my weight now is still very healthy for my body, but I still have those pesky thoughts on getting my weight back down.
2. I compare myself to others
I am always comparing myself to others. Other bloggers, celebrities, and friends for example. While sometimes looking at others who I admire brings me motivation to work harder in the gym, I also have a tendency to allow it to tear me down which is just a waste of energy.
3. I think being skinnier will bring happiness
I logically know this to not true yet sometimes I envision myself skinnier with a lot more confidence. Although I know for a fact that skinniness does not = happiness (I had worse body confidence when I was skinnier than I do now), I still have these negative thoughts.
What do I do about it?
I give myself daily pep talks. For instance this morning I had the mindless chatter going on and I said to myself (in my head, not out loud!):
“If you really want to lose 10lbs you will make choices that will lead to that and maintain it in a healthy manor. However, if you do not want to take steps to do that than stop complaining about it! Complaining about it gets you no where! You look great now and you are healthy, so just shut up and enjoy your life”.
I kid you not I say this often to myself and it works to shut out the nasty thoughts. I mean honestly, what does complaining about one’s looks get you? Absolutely no where. Action gets you somewhere, complaining does not. It’s pointless.
And so here I am, another day, another pep talk. It really is a daily struggle to maintain some sort of balance in life, but I do try my best!
- What do you do when you have negative self talk going on in your head?
- Do you compare yourself to others?